Udja Sebai Maa, Seba Dja, Anthony, KaMaat,
Dua. I just finished going through the thread of questions by Anthony and KaMaat (post #4750, #4768, #4769 #4773) and answers by Sebai Maa and Seba Dja (post #4765, #4767 #5290 & #5397). Anthony and KaMaat, thank you so much for your heartfelt openness in sharing your own personal experiences of practical reality of time and space, initiating such profound responses from our preceptors that all of us in this forum could and will benefit from. I too have some experiences that are similar in how I ‘feel’ and process the interactions with people and situations in my practical reality so, no we are definitely not alone. I have had to myself seek relationship counselling to deal with the practical reality of my personal relationship issues that surfaced almost immediately after I started the teachings, though these issues (such as communication) were not new, the teachings were blamed for them. The life skills series that was held on blogtalk truly helped me with an intellectual understanding on what it means to “relate” and what the practice of dispassion and detachment really look like. However for me, applying this understanding through speech, action and thoughts isn’t at all easy and I sometimes face challenges in trying to maintain balance, in trying to live by Maat in an Un maatian society and culture and tons of ego expressions including my own. Like Anthony, I too have experienced freezing up, more so when I am confused about what action to take, I use to at most times take none which sometimes meant as Seba Dja explained “giving worth and value to others over your own” an unhealthy ego. Though my relationship did not survive as I was use to it (we separated), it is now psychologically healthier for both of us more than ever due to what I see now among other things as the benefits of the reduction of emotional co-dependency as Seba Dja explained in her response and for me, a sense of empowerment and stronger will through the teachings because I am aware of the purpose and meaning of life. However it took a while to get to the state of unhealthy ways of relating so though my environment is more normalized, I notice that I am still having to work on cultivating a “healthy ego” with the help of getting to practice the art of “relating” to “other” in other types of relationships (friends, father, mother, sister, brother, son, daughter etc.) correctly.
Sebai Maa and Seba Dja DUA for your detailed and practical response. Seba Dja, you mentioned that each person only responsibility is to work out their own ariyu and that being on a mystical path means being selfish and selfless at the same time. In addition you mentioned that selfless service or helping others should occur when that help is desired or needed, intersection of arius. I take this to mean then that My Higher Self also need this particular intersectional experience from the other person’s Higher Self for it’s evolution though the experience might be different for both souls involved. So in helping others essential I am helping myself as you said every soul is getting what they need based on their spiritual evolution.
Seba Dja I particularly found your statement about us not all being in the same boat but in different mental dimensions living in our own worlds created by our own minds which is conditioned by our own aryu extremely profound. I will need to reflect on this further as my initial thought saw separatedness when you used “own world” “own minds” I instead of oneness.