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We usually begin the Ma’at precepts with “I have not…”. To this end, the communication between Unut Anpu and Asr Djehuti-mes differed from recommendations of the Maat teachings selected by Hemu students and the recommended Gottman principles in the following way:
• There was instigation and subsequently, agitation and strife/turmoil creation.
• There was frustration, irritation, and anger.
• Being flooded lead to increased egoism and perhaps, use of more words than necessary for clarity of communication…
• Offense exacerbated the communication leading to a critical and superfluous exchanges.
Subsequently, the communication lead to the “4 horsemen of the apocalypse” criticism, defensiveness, contempt (e.g., sarcasm) and stonewalling (fight or flight).
List applicable principles: (citing the forum (17631; 17673; 18624) or video time and date of applicable discussion and or principles).
How could the communication interaction have been different if the Ma’at teachings each student selected and communication skills and Gottam principles that were discussed had been applied? List applicable principles:
The Gottman recommendations to address the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse:
1. Criticism – attack on individual rather than emphasis on a particular behavior
a. Antiodote – “speak on our feelings using ‘I’ statements, then follow up with the expression of a positive need.”
2. Defensiveness – Protection of oneself via righteous indignation or a sense that one is a victim.
a. Antidote – “accept one’s responsibility part of the conflict”
3. Contempt – sarcastic, mockery, and/or “hostile humor”
a. Antidote – treat other person with respect, which engenders appreciation in the communications and thus, relationship
4. Stonewalling – listener withdraws due to becoming flooded with emotions without resolution leading to a shutdown ( fight or flight, etc.)
a. Antidote – break from communication for at least 20 minutes to calm down; thereafter, return to the conversation…
i. In a word, it is necessary to physiologically “self-soothe” using — for example, deep belly breathing technique (or a scarab Thef Neteru posture) to decrease the heart rate and thus, mind to a more calm/stable state.
The communication could have been more compassionate – expressing dignity, respect, blessings and love for self and the other.